Something I’ve heard a fair bit the last
few weeks, is “the wagon”.
People “falling off” this mysterious wagon,
often on a Monday,
something we build in our heads as a
super fast vessel to get us pronto, to where we want to be.
But let me tell you;
– why it’s incorrect,
– could cause more damage long term,
– how you improve choices.
Firstly, there is no wagon.
It always seems to be around food and drink on a Monday,
“I’ve fallen off the wagon, and not been out with friends,
I’ve fallen off the wagon and not looked at my emails,
I’ve fallen off the wagon and forgotten to take the kids to their clubs”
End of the day, what is IS, is choices.
Anytime we have too many days drinking,
have a few takeaways etc,
they’re all choices, WE made,
but if we tell ourself “We’ve fallen off the wagon”
internally, (our ‘internal dialogue’)
starts a fight with itself.
“Told you, you never stick to things – knew you couldn’t make right choices” etc etc
This is in turn knocks our confidence,
and ability to plan, and make better choices initially.
The odd choice here and there,
either good or bad,
has minimal impact on our longer term plans and happiness.
But if this see-saw and choices start to
regularly favour the weekday drinks,
missed gym sessions, more meals out,
and vending machine treats, what happens?
THIS starts to become our NEW habit and routine.
It’s at this point we need to stop.
Workout what ISN’T working for us,
and plan some SMALL steps we can take,
to start the shift back the other way on the see-saw,
to get things working for us again.
** What’s a priority to you and Why?
** What things do you need to reduce to improve this?
** What things do you need to implement to improve this?
** What step can you take NOW, to start the tilt on the see-saw.
Nothing is ever permanent.
Both good and bad.
But if habits and routines have started
to “set” for you, and they’re not serving you,
then maybe you need to stop,
take stock and follow the steps above?
Hope it helps,
and enjoy your choices this weekend!
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Motivation and Willpower
2 things we often are told,
or feel we need more of,
or are the things that let us down!
Thing is, they are both inverse to each other.
Your willpower is like your phone battery.
You only have so much of it,
and it gets drained throughout the day, dependant
on how often you draw on it.
Motivation levels dictate how much willpower
you’ll draw upon.
If you’re motivated to do something,
you’ll need minimal willower to carry it out,
and likely just do it.
Then vice versa for actions and tasks
you feel un-motivated to do – you’ll need willpower.
Therefore it’s crazy to rely on both long term,
to do the things you want or need,
as it’s all “about your battery – and unreliable!
So what’s the answer?
1) Know what you’re trying to achieve (personal or work)
and WHY you’re doing it. What would it mean to complete or
2) Don’t go too big. Again, deciding to implement
something which is a big step up
will draw on both willpower and motivation.
Might happen about 1 in 5 attempts,
and isn’t a sustainable long term option.
3) Therefore….. work out “What is the NEXT SMALL step I can take from where I’m at, at the moment to move forward”.
Whatever you come up with, go smaller, and then do THAT,
Well, because small steps
don’t draw or require motivation.
don’t draw on willower.
are sustainable as they don’t place demand on us daily.
SMALL STEPS REPEATED OFTEN WON’T NEED MOTIVATION OR WILLPOWER
AND WILL YIELD BETTER RESULTS LONG TERM.
2 phrases, but very different meanings and actions.
I’ve had a few conversations recently and the former “Could” has come up a few times.
Over the last 10 days, I’ve spoken to a number of people who were struggling in one way or another;
– Sticking to foods they KNOW they should be eating more of
– Exercising more than they currently are
– Working less than they currently are
– Doing things they WANT to be doing, but find ‘reasons/excuses’ not to be doing them.
During the conversation I help them bring forward their excuses (as often that’s what it is! Stories we’ve built up in our heads as to WHY we can’t do something), or help them find openings and opportunities to move forward with what they WANT to do (It’s what I do well 🙂 ),
and quite often my following question is;
“So what do you think you could do right NOW to move you closer to what we’ve just talked about?”
and 99 times out of 100 it’s
“Well, I could do xxxxxxx………” 🙂
So why aren’t you then?
So can you do that now?!
And that really is the success to moving forward.
Having someone help you move the “Bullshit fog” out of the way that’s clouding options, thoughts, decisions and direction,
and then helping you implement the “DO” – rather than sitting with too many “Could’s” .
So what are you gonna DO today or this week?!
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