This weeks thoughts

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Friday summary and thoughts from the week
1) Don’t spend too long in your head.
The more you sit with a problem, the more
your brain will sieve through past stories
and happenings to make it appear real,
to bring more questions and thoughts to the situation
Equally it can have positive benefits if you’re
planning something exciting or a new venture,
the more you “sit” with the thought, the more options
will come to you.
Get EVERYTHING concerning out of your head,
and down on paper – you can then address them
externally and with logic, rather than emotional feelings.
2) Apprehensive about making a decision
Do it. Too often, like the above, people will sit,
internally with the thoughts, and won’t follow up with action.
The “Could do…..” internal thoughts rather than the action
taking, external process of “I Will do…….”
Again, write down what needs to change, reduce or implement,
and then take the first steps to remove
the apprehension and overwhelm
READY.
FIRE.
AIM.
Start with action, you can always re-evaluate and change
the route later down the line, but taking the
first ACTION steps is what will bring the initial
change, NOT the thoughts over it
3) Small things become HUGE at night !
Steady.
If you’re struggling to sleep – it’s often because you’re
overthinking things.
Like #1 the more you hold in your head, the more
active your brain will be.
Grab a pen and paper and brain dump everything;
Tasks
Lists
Thoughts
Jobs
etc
It really doesn’t matter if you don’t take any further action,
you just need to “shift” these thoughts from the
“whirlpool” section of the brain that will
look to access more ideas about it.

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Quick lesson learnt

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Got/had a very simple lesson yesterday.
 
The end of year school reports came home,
and for my eldest who is in her last year
before Secondary school, her SATS results too!
 
Thankfully they were great, but her Maths ones
had certainly improved from the last year, and
I asked her;
 
“What do you think you did to improve?”
(and made sure it was in front of her
younger sister who is like a sponge
for soaking things up at 8, even though she might not look like she’s listening!!!)
 
“Well, if I wasn’t sure on something, I asked – either a teacher or a friend near me”.
 
Simple.
Obvious.
But something we often don’t do around some situations.
 
Because, “The more time you spend IN your head, the more overwhelmed you’ll feel”.
 
If we’re unsure of something,
sitting with it will not only reduce confidence,
but it will bring frustration and overwhelm due to a lack of clarity,
 
Yet when we have clarity around a situation,
we know what’s expected, what we need to do,
or what steps to take, we have confidence.
 
Take a think back to the last time you
lacked confidence or had concern over something ………….
I bet it was because you were
lacking CLARITY on what was the next step or outcome?
 
 
The mind is a complex thing –
but try to operate more from the “External” you than the “Internal” one 🙂
Hope the little story helps/resonates

 

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Could do or Will Do

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2 phrases, but very different meanings and actions.
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I’ve had a few conversations recently and the former “Could” has come up a few times.

Over the last 10 days, I’ve spoken to a number of people who were struggling in one way or another;

– Sticking to foods they KNOW they should be eating more of
– Exercising more than they currently are
– Working less than they currently are
– Doing things they WANT to be doing, but find ‘reasons/excuses’ not to be doing them.

During the conversation I help them bring forward their excuses (as often that’s what it is! Stories we’ve built up in our heads as to WHY we can’t do something), or help them find openings and opportunities to move forward with what they WANT to do (It’s what I do well 🙂 ),

and quite often my following question is;

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“So what do you think you could do right NOW to move you closer to what we’ve just talked about?”
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and 99 times out of 100 it’s

“Well, I could do xxxxxxx………” 🙂

So why aren’t you then?
So can you do that now?!

And that really is the success to moving forward.
Having someone help you move the “Bullshit fog” out of the way that’s clouding options, thoughts, decisions and direction,
and then helping you implement the “DO” – rather than sitting with too many “Could’s” .

So what are you gonna DO today or this week?!

P.S. One slot left on my “Doing” plan starting Monday if you want some help with ^^^ that.  http://www.theweightlosstips.co.uk/fit-mind-body-plan/

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This weeks thoughts

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Summary of thoughts and questions I’ve been asked this week ;
1) Convenience
Bought some pre-packed frozen smoothie bags this week.
Great and tasty but pretty expensive,
but you’re paying for the convenience.
As ever planing and preparation will remove the need
for convenience most of the time (sure, convenience will never disappear)
but how about making convenience work for you?
Grab some freezer bags.
Get out your green veg;
Broccoli, spinach, kale etc
chop some pineapple, mango, banana
Throw them into individual bags in the freezer
then you have your own smoothie bags to make up
just add some water/juice, optional yoghurt and you’re away.
Some pre-planning and prep saves time, dollar
and stress!
2) Implementation
Magazine covers offering “1 week fat loss”,
also “Best Butt exercises or Fit Arms” etc
They have the same headlines every month,
so it obviously doesn’t work (or promotes a yo-yo effect in people)
otherwise people would ever only need to buy 1
magazine and job done!
It’s never about the information, it’s more about
the implementation for getting stuff done,
so ditch the quick fix and use the implementation
time for more lasting, maintainable results.
Just KNOW what you’re trying to achieve,
and how to do it.
An if the above is the stumbling block – ask me – happy to advise 🙂
3) Confidence.
Had eldest daughter’s end of school production.
She was confident not nervous this time round.
Why?
Because she KNEW what to say and all the songs etc.
In life/work etc we can often lack confidence
when we’re unsure of what needs to happen,
what we need to do etc.
Find Clarity in a situation and you’ll often increase
confidence. Having a lack of clarity around something
fuels our internal dialogue and anxiety.
4) There is NO wagon.
Someone messaged me to say they’d fallen off the wagon
one night this week, with a drink.
Beating yourself up due to choices YOU made,
is a quick fire way to kick your logical brain
in the butt.
Combine it with the “being yourself up ” for choices you made,
is like your emotonal/threat brain telling your logical brain
“I knew you were crap at making choices, you can’t be trusted!”
If this happens often,
you’ll serious affect self esteem,
motivation, brainset control and the ability to make logical
decisions.
Life is about enjoyment, choices and variety.
Sure if you’re drinking most nights or takeaways
3-4 times a week, you’re balance is wrong, and likely
so is your brainset – you’re possibly lacking clarity
in an area of life.
But if it’s occasional choices – there’s no problem.
It’s about the balance of the see-saw choices!

 

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5 Thing to Quit

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5 BIG social factors or emotions that cause Disconnect and Overwhelm.

1. It’s impossible. Best advice is to be YOU.

You are individual and those who you resonate with, will be the ones who matter.

2. The Brain doesn’t like change. It likes habit and routine,
yet change is how we adapt, improve and live.
Just because is new and you haven’t done it before,
there’s no reason to FEAR it. We always know after it want as bad!

3. The past is what happened and the future
gets sculpted by what you do now.
NOW is the only time to work and think in. Learn from the past but don’t live in it.

4. If we don’t love ourselves how can we
expect others too? Doing it repeatedly is a
sure way to tell your brain you don’t trust its
judgment and you’ll live via your emotional/threat based brain

5. Ive said before- sea in Data NOT Drama,
what you KNOW to be true. Writing thoughts or options
down can help as you then look at them logically
rather than them just sitting as thoughts.

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