Stick with what works!

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So last week I sent out a newsletter to my subscribers (not on it?- Signup to the box top right here!) about how things are often right in front of you, but often you don’t see it, or look “over” it for all the hustle and bustle of daily life. It come sometimes be about slowing down a little and looking around you, rather than continually working at 100mph, and looking for the next big thing or answer, whereas in fact, the answer is, and always has been, right in front of you!

 

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This article has 2 points to it, both I’m hoping, will give clear nudges/reminders.

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– Late last year I added this post, talking about the fear of change. How we don’t like change, we feel comfortable doing what we know, and how sometimes, listening to others can keep us stuck in our comfort zones.

In a nutshell (though I’d still recommend you read it, as a lesson can be learnt!) I swapped after a few years of being on an Iphone, to their rival, then Samsung. You’re either in one “gang” or the other, but I fancied a change, made my own mind up, and went for it.

After initial “new phone teething problems” I was fine with the swap, bigger screen (pretty much what you want nowadays on a smartphone), nice camera, it all looked the same as an iPhone – no real issue I thought!

This is very similar to the start of a new journey, be it a new diet, fitness plan or job. The excitement of something new, a little out of your comfort zone and daily routines, sometimes enough excitement to bring a little haze over the bigger picture – I think we’re all been there before, some calling it “getting carried away with the moment” !!!!

Anyhow, last week my wife upgraded to the new iPhone 5, and my mind started working overtime again ….;

– “Hmmm that does look good”

– “Ahhh the iphone, that solid feel in your hand, not a plastic, break if you drop it samsung”

I was falling again for something I’d previously had!

If I’m honest, the Samsung is a Wanna-be Iphone, but with a better GPS/Maps app, but isn’t quite as slick as an iphone, doesn’t feel as “quality” as an iPhone and is just a poor second choice……in my opinion.

OK enough Phone geek talk!

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What I’m saying here is, I’m going back to an Iphone next week! Like last weeks newsletter, I fancied something new, something different, had looked into it, and all seemed fine. The thing is, there was nothing wrong with the Iphone I had previously. I just wanted a change. This happens.

The problem is sometimes we look for a change, in the hope it will bring something new, something more, something different, when in reality there is nothing wrong with what we have, we’re just looking for that holy grail, a “grass is greener” type of approach.

If something works for you, stick with it.

If you know it works, but are getting a little “tired” of it – stop. Look at why it works, and also look at how you’re using it, or what you’re really “tired” of. In reality it’s probably not THAT you’re tired of. It’s probably other factors which have started “clouding around you” and complicating the methods you need to use.

Nothing is ever a race, unless you’re in a race 😉

Take it slow, seek out something that works, and commit to it 100% with all your effort.

Which leads me nicely on to point 2.

Effort

Last week we were going over my daughters school spellings, as each week she has a “test” at school.

At first she gets a few wrong, but through concentrating, and us helping her to understand, focus and learn, she gets them right.

So, she comes home from school and after initially only getting 6/10 in her “practice” she proudly announces she’s got 10/10 with a big smile on here face!

Now, the key here, and probably something that a lot of you reading this as parents have said/used before is in the saying before the test “Good luck! Concentrate, and do the best you can!” or when they bring a piece of work home “Well done! You must have worked really hard on that”?

The key message in this is that the praise is in the effort and commitment, NOT on their intelligence levels.

There is a great book called Bounce by Matthew Syed, which talks about skills and champions. As well as talking about what it takes to become world class at things (a short version is 10,000 hours or regular practice and commitment)

it talks about how children who are praised through “great effort, or your must have worked really hard with that” will spend more time problem solving an idea, or will focus more on their quality of work than a child told “I’m sure you’ll do really well today because your clever and you know this”

In essence with the first you are concentrating on the effort and focus levels, something everyone has, and something than can easily be used. However, with the second (intelligence levels) you’ve automatically put pressure onto them by telling them they are clever. During a test, the child will panic if it’s not going to plan, because they’ve been burdened with this sense “but I’m clever, I should know this” , whereas if they were told to do their best, they’re more likely to spend longer and more effort working on a problem, or content of a project.

How many of us could learn a lesson from the words we give our kids?!

“Just do the best you can!” – do you find that commitment to exercise of healthy eating is a shortfall from this? Willpower tends to drop off?!

Then, again step back from what you’re doing every now and then “know” what you want and commit to it with effort and give it you’re best.

After all, you can’t do or give anymore than that!

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